My husband says he doesn’t plan dates because I’m hard to please. I’m AuDHD and have some social difficulties even in my marriage. I am particular and I have to be in the mood for certain activities BUT I am clear about what I want ahead of time, he just doesn’t listen. He planned a date for us this weekend. At the beginning of the week I gave him an activity I would like to do. After spending zero time planning this week, he threw out a totally different plan and something I can’t imagine wanting to do ever. I feel unseen and unheard. He wants me to talk to him about my feeling but when I do, tells me I’m self-centered, selfish and impossible to please. He’s neglected me emotionally and physical for years and I want to stop caring. I can’t afford to leave. I don’t even know if I still love him like a partner.