honestly i do not know who to tell this too but it's been on my mind and i have to get it off my chest. i'm sick of people telling me "i want a man who yearns" or "i'm yearning for him". you DO NOT want to yearn, or be yearned for, i'm sorry. imagine being so obsessed with the idea of someone that you ruin your own life over it, and your entire life is dependent on that person. and you're idealizing that person in your head, if you "love" someone for 10 years from faraway, you're in love with the idea of them. you probably don't even know the real them after all that time. and when that person is finally in your orbit, you get disappointed because they don't match up to the perfection that you built on your own inside your head. all that pain for what? you ruin your mental health by yearning for somebody. the romanticization of it in modern media is disgusting. we lost the meaning of yearning. i don't know who needs to read this, but i hope this finds the right audience. have agood day