So I'm really in a confused state not sure how much of this can be understood but here goes.. I'm happily married and my husband is my love and life personified for me. But as of late a colleague who is 9 years older than me confessed Good feelings for me. We had a good rapport and just had started talking to each other. After this confession I started seeing him differently.. though he's definitely not my type but there's some allure to him.. obviously he was lightly flirting with me.. but I felt heard and seen when with him... I also wanted his company, wanted to talk to him.. but I always maintained there was nothing romantic but there was something. I'm not able to make sense of what it is. And this consumes so much of my energy. Now he has stepped back a little though we remain cordial and he says he's still Friendly but I feel he's become more distant and I'm not liking it. He says it's because he doesn't want any problems in my marital life. What's wrong with me? What is this