My girlfriend and I broke up after almost four years. We had been growing apart, and I had tried bringing it up several times over the past year, but nothing changed. A few weeks ago she said it felt like we were already separated and decided she wanted to break up. She also said part of the reason was me not pulling my weight around the house, which is fair. What’s hard is that I had been trying to work on the drifting apart for months, but it didn’t seem like she wanted to put in the effort then. Now we still live together because neither of us can afford to move, we work at the same place, and I’m still her ride since her car doesn’t work. She wants to stay friends, and I do too, but it’s difficult because I still see her as more than a friend. It also hurts that she seems to treat her other friends as more important than our relationship.