then of course there's fh. spent almost every day with her or talking to her for nearly 3 years, then she completely dropped contact for 1.5 years, didn't respond to any texts, then suddenly texted me again and we picked up our friendship again, took classes together and spent all that time together. i listened to her talk about her family and relationship issues, school issues, depression when her brother died, all of that. then we started taking different classes from each other. i kept trying to talk to her, find time to hang out, but she never made any effort, barely responded to my texts, never tried to find time to spend together, never reached out to me first to ask how i was doing, how my classes were going, etc. never. not in all the years we knew each other. never. and then every time i proposed doing something together, she'd just say no, reject all my ideas almost derisively, like why would anyone want to do X, Y, or Z? why would anyone want to waste time with that?