I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year., everything was great, but I'm mentally ill and often have crises where I feel unloved and lash out. Last weekend, something triggered a relapse, and I told him I’d need his help. Today was my first big crisis. We hadn't talked all day, and he chose to spend his free time out with "our" friend group without inviting or telling me. When I reached out, I admitted my crisis was triggered by his childhood friend who is in that group. This guy bullied me for years, is incredibly sexist, and constantly compares me to pornstars. It hurts deeply that my boyfriend remains close friends with someone who devalues me so heavily. When I brought this up, he got defensive, accusing me of trying to isolate him from his oldest friends (especially since he already lost a best friend when we started dating because he's my ex and decided to be petty). I don't want to control him, but it hurts. Now he's deeply hurt, and I'm spiraling. What do I do?