Hot take but anyone and everyone that is into bondage just wants to be in a soft abuser x victim releasionship if the person that is into bondage keeps pushing the other person into it. Or coercing them, forcing them, or even saying you'll break up with them and tell all their secrets just to try out that kink. This can also apply to any harmful kinks whether it be emotional, physical, mental, or financial (broke homeless gets money for sex, which is just suger baby x suger parent trope). I'm not saying exploring kinks is bad though, I'm just saying that if you keep pushing your significant other to try them out with them being unsure, then the relationship is toxic and its soft abuser x victim or straight up abuser x victim. Putting this on Reddit.