I love my husband but I am so over living with him and his actions sometimes. I know he is autistic and ADD, and we work to manage these things, but sometimes it doesn’t feel like he’s trying at all. I have to almost pressure him into showering. I have to ask him to come to bed 3 times because he’s too busy scrolling on his phone. I have to repeatedly ask him to stop yelling and banging on his desk while he’s working because it freaks me out. He’s always stressed, always mad, always sad. Always something other than just fine which I get because I’m obviously not always fine, but he doesn’t try to do anything to help himself. I’ve suggested therapy, counseling, new medication, literally anything to help him be less stressed and on edge all the time, but he doesn’t seem interested in trying anything. I know that can be apart of his mental stuff, but I also have depression and anxiety and went and got myself taken care of for him. I just wish he was like he was before.