my wife fucking infuriates me. to preface this while she is depressed she's on medication and in therapy and her therapist is telling her to take more initiative but she genuinely refuses to try. she never does anything doesn't work and constantly berates me for spending money on myself but will drop MY MONEY on things for her in a heartbeat. she sleeps soundly while i keep our lives together daily im doing housework shopping and shes comfortably in bed. im constantly having to put myself in bad situations for her and she doesn't care unwilling to sacrifice anything for herself if i ask her to put in a job application she yells at me because its too overwhelming and it's been months. i had a close relative die recently and couldnt grieve because the news made her so sad FOR A PERSON SHE MET EXACTLY ONCE i spent hours comforting her because it was too much for her then she couldn't deal with me being upset without spiralling until i helped soothe her. what do you even do.