I feel like I dont have to make things work either. So then I dont ever meet them again after meeting for a first date. Idk it its because I am looking for someone that I think would absolutely work or maybe the things I do worry about or worth thinking about, because an 8 year age gap will never change and that if someone likes going out to every other concert every other weekend I would absolutely not be doing that. I would dread doing that and thats not what I want to do, because when I try to add myself in someones life I think of the things I would have to do that I dont want to do and that doesnt make me want to do any of it. I have already decided how I feel about the situation.