My mom has this boyfriend and with all the men shes been with it feels she has a habit of putting them over me. I have a phobia of dogs and she moved me in with a large dog and ia saying its my fault for being unnable to face my fear at 7 and muster up the courage because im stubborn and says with evwry relationship she factors me in when by her own admitence it boils down to keeping me and these people seperate till big decisions and from there like the guy with the dog she thinks ill just learn to get over it and from her own mom shes constantly asking for empathy but it feels she doesnt even give that same empathy to me and dismisses me or my comforts in favor of her own. With my phobia she said herself she sees it as just baseless cause a dog did nothing to me and is saying at 7 to now im just stubborn for being terrified to get over this neurological fear