what if i don't think i can forgive and forget? what if all my anger from the abuse is the thing keeping me going? does that make me a bad person? i feel like telling people to forgive and forget is the worst thing to say, because by remembering, i'm ensuring i don't end up in a situation like that again. by not forgiving, i'm choosing to set my own boundaries between right and wrong and also putting closure in my own hands instead of my abuser's. yes, i am angry and resentful and hurt, but acknowledging it instead of sweeping it under the rug helps me accept and move on.
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