one of the traits i was concerned with was actually the absence of shallowness/vanity. to me those things were an indicator of worthlessness; if you are vapid you are not someone worth taking seriously. I find that I have a tendency to perform having an inner world, or tastes. but tbh most of the time it's me going, wouldn't it be charming to do this? i should do this, as it's what a charming person would do. like, randomly humming to myself, or playing air guitar, or skipping as I walk. i don't overuse these obviously but I perform them. i also perform "being lost in thought". in reality all of these are just happening for the sake of appearances. this is what a person who is charming, likeable would do. who has interests and passions. i feel like my biggest fear besides not having value is that there is nothing there beyond the "facade" (🤮). like deep down i am a gloomy reserved person, that has nothing to offer besides my own desire to adapt and be liked. i don't enjoy much.