my bf is all weird about me going to a pool party with friends i havent seen in over 2 years?? he makes it seem like its SO insane to go to a pool party and even said i was being “unloyal” am i the crazy one i dont understand how its SO bad. he goes to parties, drinks, smokes and does nic and when i bring it up suddenly its “using it against him” I WAS USING IT AS AN EXAMPLE??? i tell him its not fair to ME how he gets to do that shit, i hate he does it but im not gonna tell him how to live his life, but when i go to ONE party (no drinking, drugs, smoking involved AND its moreso a casual hangout) its an issue???? i say its not fair to me but then he brings the attention back to him saying how it isnt fair to him?? HOW IS IT NOT FAIR?? AM I THE PROBLEM WHAT AM I NOT UNDERSTANDING???? its been days since we argued about this TWICE btw and it STILL bothers me like?????? literally why even date me if you dont want me going out does he not realize how insane he sounds