No for real. My mom don't ALWAYS have to defend the other person. Even with dads abusive behavior she'll hump up and take it and later just blame it on his addiction. Funny she even backed him when he physically harmed me. Who stood up for me then? Sure as hell not her. How more fucked up can you get? I'd go no contact if I could. For my own sanity and peace. Like give me a fuckinv break I can't one day without drama and b s. It gets so old. Nobody cares about my peace and I get so many emotional spiritual attacks in a day I feel like I got enough arrows in me to look like a porcupine.