I have AuDHD, CPTSD, and several chronic illness. My AuDHD has not been officially diagnosed but I am fully aware of it due to getting my kid diagnosed. I struggle with attendance issues due to not always being able to handle going into work. I lost my last job due to no fault of my own. It has been 7 months and I have been unable to find a job anywhere. I have a tiny bit of money and I have tried to help with bills etc but my bf refuses everytime. When he gets stressed, he will sometimes say some hurtful things to me and I don't know why. I have hyper-empathy and I can't even imagine being mean to someone I care about. Yesterday he went off on me for being the one having to pay all the bills and getting no help. He said he didn't understand why I can't be a functioning adult and that hit me like a ton of bricks. I spent a huge chunk of my life crying alone asking why I just can't be normal. He's also referred to me as an anchor in the past and that being with me is a loss for him.