My boyfriend is still close friends with an ex his was with for 7 years, and I fucking hate it. (No kids involved, they weren’t married, we’re all in our 30s, she lives round the corner from him whereas I live an hour away). She has never been warm or welcoming. He still goes round to her place for dinner, builds her furniture, etc. They go to gigs together just the two of them, do things that feel like dates to me. I’m away for Halloween and this year and they are continuing a tradition they had while together of craving pumpkins. I hate her and her stupid fucking face. I wish she would fuck off forever. He swears there’s nothing sexual or romantic anymore and is entirely defensive, dismissive and unsupportive of me being uncomfortable with their friendship. But he was also masturbating to videos of him and a different ex having sex together and yelled at me he did nothing wrong. So I don’t trust him to have good boundaries with exes, period. I hate myself for staying with him.