My sisters and I were raised to have skills. I was taught to sew, they were taught to play instruments, we all know how to cook. I make my own laundry detergent, my sisters bake from scratch. I learned pickling and how to take care of plants. We were all expected to develop skills. Then there's my brother. Was jobless and living with my parents rent-free for 10 years. I am not exaggerating when I say he can't boil pasta, that is his own admission. He doesn't have chores. I have tried confiding in my mother than I'm scared of marrying the wrong man and ending up with an adult child instead of a partner. She tells me that it's normal to "train" your husband. My dad once told me that if a football player hits his wife but is good at the game, why should he lose his job? My sister was harrassed and stalked at work but told she should consider him because he has a house. I want to be angry, but then told I'm a man-hater. Why am I not allowed to be angry at how unfair it all is?