I think my mom is actively grooming me. But im not sure, its not sexual in anyway (i think),,,some things that make me feel this way are: 1. she constantly pushes or ignores my boundaries, she does this so often to the point where i can almost never say no to her. 2. she constantly gulits me into feeling sorry for her even when she is in the wrong 3. i had to grow up very fast because her and my dad would always fight and she would dump all her marriage, work and mental health struggles onto me instead of getting professional help (she started to do this when i was 8) 4. When ever i try to open up to her, she finds ways to make it about herself and then i am stuck comforting her 5. when i mentioning wanting to move out someday, she makes me feel guilty for even thinking about that by saying things about needing me to care for her when shes older even though she has 2 adult sons who do almost nothing all day. I dont know if grooming is the right term for this behavior sorry