I don't understand. Like, you were rude and cold to me. I brought it up. And suddenly this is about how I brought it up. It's a problem that when asking you to take accountability, I used words like your comment was rude, cold and pointed. I'm the bad guy for assumimg you were intentionally being mean. I don't even believe that, like I fully believe you are unaware of yourself. You are willfully unware of yourself. You can be cold and distant and mean when you haven't expressed your own needs and be fully unaware of it. Great. How does this change things? Why are we repeatedly focusing on my reaction to your shitty behaviour? I wasn't graceful enough. It hurt for you to feel like a bad person. It's so fucking frustrating!!! How about don't be a dick? How about when you ask me what I want to do with our day together, and I excitedly tell you what I want to do, how about don't shut down and respond with coldness and indifference and disdain because you can't express your feelings.