I don’t think my mom deserves to be forgiven after everything. When I told her that her husband and my sperm donor groomed me from before hit double digits, she sided with him. I knew she would, which is why I didn’t tell her for so long. The only reason I told her is because I thought it would be the push she needed to divorce her serial cheater husband. Instead she started calling me an instigator and doubled down on him. Only after he started accusing her of cheating on Facebook did she start warming up to the idea of divorce. Not when he groomed me for years, not when he threatened my younger brother with a gun but over some internet shit. I’ve even heard her admit that she believed me all along but no apology for trying to make me pretend he never did. No apology for prioritizing a violent predator over her children. How can I even start to forgive, when she refuses to acknowledge?