my brother was taking my underwear for years and my mother knew and never told me because "what i didnt know didnt hurt me" and she wanted to protect his secrets to be a "safe place". she told me this after i had revealed that he'd been showing me porn for years as a kid and repeatedly asked to see my chest. she says she loves me and the program i am in wants us to be on good footing with each other. who do i kill first? (that was not serious)