Broke up with my partner of almost 3yrs a few days ago. Our relationship was stagnant. When we talked he told me he couldn't really love me in the way I needed as a girlfriend. I had my needs and I just kept forgiving him because I thought I just needed to be understanding and things will get better. He admitted that he always felt like he wasn't ready and that he was numb to love. Which confused and hurt me because he was the one who wanted to court me at first. He didn't really put in much effort in our relationship. I had built up resentment because of the dissapointments. I couldn't handle it anymore then decided to open up about what I felt yesterday. We talked and I realized he probably didn't really love me as a girlfriend. I was probably just holding on because I was scared of losing the bond I got used to.