I get so beyond frustrated because everytime I voice my feelings he shuts down and blames himself instead of us just chatting through like adults. I want my needs to be met and emotionally they are not. But if I mention anything to do with how I’m feeling he is extremely avoidant and just kinda says ok well idk what you want me to do that’s who I am. I’m also annoyed that he can’t be normal and social he drinks too much and can’t just chill and socialize. He’s also always in pain and won’t go get an X-ray or ask for more help from his doctor he just accepts he can’t do anything. He loves sports and can’t play them due to the pain. Idk what to do to help him and his low mood consumes me and frustrates me SIGH I feel like a shit wife but at this point I’m exhausted and feel distant. Most of the time I don’t think he HEARS me he just takes what I say and internalizes it on himself. He doesn’t really ask me about how I’m doing or how my day or work is going. He is extremely consumed by him