Still about my boss giving me that lecture about not calling it refusing, but having to say I could do it, but can't because blah blah blah. My training said insubordination, punishable by suspension up to firing for even a first time offense, is activated when you defy a direct order. Which at the ends of the means here, despite the reasoning and its righteousness or truthfulness, is just that. Oooooh, perception. And she spent a good while trying to convince me. She was getting agitated over me not getting it. Well, when you say six in one and a half dozen of the other, what do you get when you add them together, when you could've just said 6+6 equals what, and it's shorter, what would you want? I hated subordinates who did 10 words for one, corporate speak so I don't like doing that wherever I'm at. She said I can't view the world as black and white and I'll be viewed as a pariah and difficult to work with if I ever use the word refuse again and talk to HR.