I was in a relationship for 9 years with someone with MDD. Over time, it’s felt like more of a burden because I have to be the one to initiate activities, cook, chores, plan things, and half the time it never works out because they don’t want to or can’t get out of bed that day. They told me that they were contemplating self harm because they didn’t see their life improving. They asked me to stay with them for another year to see if a new medication helped them (it hasn’t and it’s been 9 months). Finally acknowledged that we needed to not be in a relationship anymore, but I still live with them until I can move into my new place in a month. It doesn’t feel like a breakup. I don’t feel like I can move on. I’m not sad, but I’m not happy either. I don’t know what their plan is for the future and I’m torn between wanting to know and not. They want to keep doing things together (travel, dates, sleeping together), but I feel like that’s just staying in a relationship? I’m confused.