Is it normal for a parent to raise their voice a lot of the time to their kid's whole life and swear at them or say things they wouldn't do like say they would hurt you in some way even though you feel like you deserve it for making them that upset over something like not finding something or not being able to listen or do something right and whenever they raise their voice at you, you clam up cause you don't know what to say or do without making them more upset? And whenever it does happen the parent says how you're such a victim and how they're such a bad parent. It's not like the kid means to mess up their whole life but they feel like that's all they ever do and tries to keep their distance from their parent to not do or say something wrong.