Personally, I think joking abt trauma is ok bc it’s a coping mechanism for some people but when OTHER PEOPLE joke abt YOUR trauma, that’s just fucking disrespectful and rude and mean. My toxic ex (he also didnt respect my boundaries) used to make jokes abt my dead parent bc I joked abt them as a coping mechanism, and it always shocked me but ig I deserve it? On my birthday, I was struggling with mental health and my family KNEW and the second I blew the candles out on the cake, one of my family members told me I could kms now since I was officially a teen. They also knew I had “birthday depression” (I’ve locked myself in my room and sobbed on my birthday everyday since I was 10, idk why) AND I HAD FRIENDS OVER SO I FELT LIKE I COULDNT JUST LOCK MYSELF AWAY. They also make jokes abt my sh and my sh scars and I just feel like I deserve it sometimes but sometimes I feel like they need to GTFO OF MY ISSUES