My boyfriend sent a message to my dad about wanting to be a better person. He told me he wants to be a better person but it doesn’t feel that way. We both have DID and even the system relationships where it seemed like nothing could/would go wrong have had so many fights because they’re stubborn. They got me out of a terrible situation and I’ll forever be grateful for it but the longer we go on, the more unhealthy our relationship becomes. Their alters will hurt us and they say “well they were warned beforehand it would happen”. We struggle with self harm and they have an eating disorder so their “method” to get us to stop is to starve if they find out we relapsed but won’t make an effort to improve themselves. We just have to nod along while they practically boast about not eating or talk about how fat they are. We put so much effort into everything but it feels like we’re not getting the same amount back. They didn’t even tell us about certain things until we were already together