Might be a hot take but avoidants are really selfish for getting close to anyone in any form, knowing they have issues with closeness and still end up getting close with people just to end up hurting them as shit even though they dont "mean" to it makes me think that they just cant think about other peoples feelings other than themselves. And yeah i know its some body response but just dont get close with anyone then until you're healed with it? They just make me want to bang my head to a wall.