I've been helping all the time—caring for children, cleaning, and doing what they need. Yet, if I lie down briefly with no one telling me to help, I’m suddenly seen as selfish and unhelpful. I do tasks I’m told, canceling what I'm doing, like a Sims 4 character. When I help, it’s as if I do nothing or sit on my lazy ass. I already know how to clean and babysit. I’m a people pleaser, so I stop everything to help, fearing I’ll seem rude. I do enjoy cleaning, but only when I’m not criticized for doing it wrong. Basically, my mom said, "Yeah, she knows now" after my aunt said, "damn (name) be doing everything lol". Like omg, you didn't do shit. You didn't "teach" or "correct" me on anything. I was already doing that; I am already that person. STFU.