I love my boyfriend. And I know he loves me. But I think we use different love languages. I love small, innocent intimacy. My boyfriend, flirts by rough housing, and rage baiting me all of the time which flairs up my anxiety problems. And even when we have “innocent, intimate” moments, 9/10 it leads to sex. So then, every time he initiates innocent intimacy, I immediately say “I don’t want to have sex.” And then he gets all huffy and puffy, and will pull away from the situation. Almost like he’s punishing me for not wanting to have sex. So then I’m not getting my intimacy, because I don’t want it leading to sex every single time. I just wish he’d love me gently. I’m tired of the rough housing, I’m tired of the rage baiting, I’m tired of the only time we are intimate, it’s sex related.