For context, my family is very against PDA. That means no hugs, no pecks, no saying "I love you," and generally no physical closeness between couples in front of the family. One time my mom got upset with me because I was holding my boyfriend's hand, telling him I loved him, and being physically close to him. I told her that I understood her perspective, but I didn't agree with her values or necessarily share the same values as our family. I was holding my boyfriend's hand because I was nervous, and I wasn't all over him or doing anything inappropriate. I explained that I wanted to establish a boundary and for her to understand that I'm not her, and I'm not an extension of our family. I'm my own person. I told her that I would respect her wishes by not holding hands, hugging, or being physically affectionate around her, but I would not stop telling my boyfriend I love him. Another example is tattoos. My family strongly dislikes tattoos, but my boyfriend has two full sleeves, both dedic