Right now. I don't want to spend much time with my mother. We argue most of the time. The peace is attained with I hold her at arm's length. I refuse to be at the radar when she explodes. I still care about her though. I make things comfortable around the house so that she will not tire from keeping things together. I think it stemmed from her habit/environment that one must grit one's teeth and see through things even though a second option can also be chosen. She is in hard mode most of time. She does not feel that she is sweating excessively while I am sensitive enough to be uncomfortable to still wearing the soaked shirt. I guess, I can guide her to have some rest. But still, holding her at arm's length. I don't want to get hurt by misdirected bombs of frustration and anger.