2 things i would say to my gf if I could with no consequences: 1. I really dont like it when you offer spicy time, or do things to get me in the mood, and then it just fizzles out. I dont want to lose your trust, and I know if I get annoyed i will, but i'd rather you know for sure you want this before offering than you offer and then you get uncomfortable or too tired. 2. I havent felt comfortable communicating with you. I feel like every time I've tried to communicate my being upset or my dissatisfactions, It turns into defensiveness and big arguments, and that doesn't make me comfortable communicating, I usually just decide to keep it to myself and maintain the peace. i know you've been struggling recently, it being 1 yar since it all happened, and I know we went through a rough patch recently, and I know you asked me to communicate better with you. but I feel like me trying to communicate has created more issues than when I just stayed quiet