If the person doesnt touch you or grab you in a loving/passionate why, they probably are not that into you. You truly realize if the person is really into you, if they grab you in all the places that takes ur breath away. So many ppl choose to be "gatekeepers" for what they know makes a person feel alive. You get older and realize you have never had a person entirely make you feel that way, b/c they choose not to let you feel that way. Lots of ppl are like this, if they actually like you, they would remind you so with just a touch. If you dont get that contact with someone you are suppose to love than idk if they are really into you. A person you have been with for so many years doesnt make you feel felt than its someone that chooses not to let u feel them. I am speaking to myself when I say this but I feel someone will get something out of this. Even the not touchy person, in acts of pleasure/passion, if you really like the person, are you not grabbing onto them? Idk maybe its just a