I have BPD and have been in therapy for 2 years. My gf and I have been together for 3.5 years and most of the time I feel like I am carrying all of our struggles and I am tired. I have worked hard in therapy to be able to regulate my emotions and communicate effectively, but my gf is unwilling to do the same. She has quite a few mental health diagnosis that she refuses to get help for. Most of my days consist of regulating her emotions for her and consistently taking her mental load. She refuses to talk to even a friend. It is getting to a point where I feel as though I do not have any space to talk about my feelings. If something is upsetting me or if I am having a bad mental health day, instead of getting the patience and comfort I give her, she becomes disregulated and ends up needing the comfort. She becomes angry when I bring up an issue, she cries and shuts down almost every single time no matter the approach. I only take care of her. I feel abandoned in this relationship.