"I wish I wasn't the second choice all the time. I wish my friends would just turn to me first." "Lucky.. Im not even a choice.." in the most respectful way possible, you are not helping. Your just making me feel guilty about it and making me feel like I'm venting about something that doesn't even matter. I feel bad for you, but that wasn't the right way to respond at all. Your just making me feel bad, and now I feel like I have to comfort you even though I was the one who was supposed to receive comfort.