My friend group is VERY unstable, and has been for a while. One of my ex-friends, F, was at some point VERY rude to another friend, Y. F was giving him death threats, and after a BUNCH of other stuff piled together, we as a group of friends stopped communicating with F. Its been half a year since then, and all of a sudden Y and F are friends again and F was invited to hang out with me, Y and Y's partner. I'm still uncomfortable around F bcs like... THE BITCH GAVE Y DEATH THREATS. THATS NOT SOMETHING YOU SHOULD DO. I havent been able to forgive F, I dont know if I can, but Ive explained to Y that Im not comfortable around F and he still expected me to hang out with everyone bcs like yeah y wouldnt I? LAST TIME I WAS UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND AN EX-FRIEND I WENT AROUND A CORNER AND STARTED BITING MY ARM (yippee thats a way to sh take notes class) I just CANT be uncomfortable without zoning out for 5 minutes straight or SHing. like come on. how can you forgive her. how havent i?