im a queer poc and my friends are not the people i think they were. one of my other friends is also queer but she weirdly gives out “the pass” to others and forced my other friend to say the f slur. shes gotten comfortable with saying it and im genuinely just confused. we’ve always agreed that saying slurs is bad because well its common sense but shes switching up now. she also has a friend that regularly says the n word even though shes white. i feel incredibly uncomfortable around them because my friends constantly dismiss her and jokingly say “you cant be racist right now! [my name] is here!” ???? they constantly make jokes about how im asian and i just don’t feel comfortable. i don’t want to turn out like them excusing this kind of behavior. its so hard letting go of them though since they have been my closest friends forever and they were there for me at my lowest. i am grateful for that but i cannot keep being friends with them